Dear Home Engineer: From Career Mom to SAHM
You are probably wondering. Why the term home engineer?
Let me start answering this question by showing you the synonyms of home Engineer according to Thesaurus.com
Being a mom is kind of like being a family manager. The to-do list you write out daily is out of love for your family.
The list varies in length depending on how many kids you have and if you are married. Either way, you know deep down you wanted this life even if it has its challenges.
But there are times, that you feel confused about your role.
Like you want to count your blessings and you do. Then at the same time, you feel ashamed to say you see your family as a burden. A time-consuming effort that leaves you feeling dry and neglected.
One reason for this feeling is you haven’t been taught or accepted what your role looks like in the home.
Learning the role of a home engineer will grow a mom, wife, and young woman in more ways than one.
Here’s why. You will understand the bigger picture when it comes to how important your role is in the home.
You see being a Home Engineer is more than just cleaning. It’s about being actively present in all the moving pieces of the home life and enjoying every moment of it.
Reason to be a Stay at home Mom
You are probably wondering why should I even bother with home engineering?
The first reason to consider is a spiritual reason. Since the idea of marriage, homemaking, training up our children, is not a man-made idea. It is, in fact, an idea that originated from the scriptures of old.
Scripture talks about home engineering?
Yes, yes it does.
And there’s wise counsel to be learned to help guide you in reviving your love for the home.
And to add, if you are not sure where you are spiritually I understand and I want to help.
You see. The truths of scripture will set you free and create a newfound desire as a mom.
One of my favorite verses is the following that has helped me time and time again. Especially with all the social media news and pins of perfect families making me feel I don’t measure up.
The following verse has helped me and I hope it helps you too:
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30 English Standard Version (ESV)
I am no scholar of the scriptures.
But I have been reading and livingout the scriptures for 14 years with the help of Christ. There is much to learn from the verse shared.
Here’s an article What does it mean when Jesus says, “my yoke is easy and my burden is light” that explains this passage in depth.
‘Take my yoke upon you’ meaning in Home Life
For now, look at the part of the verse that says “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me.”
At the time when this passage was written the systems that were in place were by the Pharisees. Their yoke of keeping the hundreds of laws perfectly was a heavy burden to carry.
Likewise in our modern times we have our own systems and laws per se don’t we?
Where we have the media and culture telling us what a successful mom looks like? or how depending on what college your child graduates from shows how successful a parent you really are?
Now let’s consider the yoke of Christ. Where he tells us to rest in him and his promises. Where he tells us to teach our kids to love the ways of God. To love our neighbors the same way we love ourselves.
At times we know this but we still brush it off as nonessential. We tell ourselves there has got to be more to life then what God has to say?
But is that really true? Or are we making it harder then it needs to be.
The scripture is big on training up a child in the way they should go. Learning to obey authority, following the right path. Staying away from people that do harm to others. Working like the ants and preparing your food for the hard seasons of life.
Don’t we desire for our kids to be trained well and be prepared in this life?
I mean we are not going to be around forever. No one is guaranteed tomorrow.
So as family managers the best gift we can give our kids is, wisdom, and truth.
As a home engineer going on 6 years, I can say I genuinely enjoy my family. I’ve learned to understand my role and duty to the home.
It would have never been discovered if I didn’t trust in Christ and take my homemaking role seriously back in 2014.
That’s why I can’t keep this to myself and will share with other women the importance of considering becoming a home engineer.
Support for SAHM
Here are some ways I desire to guide you and help you revive a love for your own home. The letters I will write to you will be in the form of posts on my blog. Here are a few examples of how you can benefit from this blog:
- I will Provide helpful strategies to tackle the first year of being a homemaker
- Learn about several game-plan tactics to teach your kids how to do life through learning life skills 101
- If you are considering the homeschooling route, I will share tips and tricks to help you on your homeschool journey.
- Provide an accountability community. That way you are encouraged to live in a way that brings joy to yourself and your family.
As the blog grows I will learn more about the questions that you need answered. And we will address them together at that time.
Who is the writer behind DearHomeEngr.com?
Hello, my name is Veronica Gutierrez. I love researching and implementing ways to make homemaking and homeschooling easier. I desire to help first-generation homeschooling moms and homemakers.
Maybe you desire both being a homemaker and homeschool mom but don’t know where to begin?
Like you want to ask an older woman at your church for help but you’re hesitant.
You might be attending bible studies to help with your marriage and you feel out of place. The main reason being almost every mom in the room works outside of the home.
And it feels as if Homemaking is not a popular topic because it’s brushed away when you bring it up.
In addition, you don’t want to come off better than other moms. You just desire to be obedient to your call that’s all.
By the way, you should still talk to an older lady and continue attending bible studies in your church.
Your influence is important too.
You don’t need to go at it alone. There are a handful of likeminded mamas out there that share the same passions in homemaking.
Its a road less traveled, but its a road worth traveling on.
And I am in agreement that as a mom being home you are the main influencer for your children. Your whole family will benefit from this lifestyle change.
How else are we supposed to train children in the way they should go? Especially if we are in a different location, away from them, most of the day.
Every homemaker’s journey will look different. But the motive is similar. It’s about being obedient to living our role with confidence in the home.
My first- Year home confession
Back in May 2014 I was in for a big surprise when I started my first day as home Engineer.
You would think I had enough life experience to handle a toddler and maintain a home.
And to my dismay, I learned quickly that I lacked skills in this department.
In that season of my life I decided to also start my first year of homeschooling.
It was a crazy year for sure, but one of the most growing times in my life. I made mistakes that I will be sharing. I also found some solutions to be a better mom to my kids.
As a Christian wife, I struggled in biblical submission and genuinely loving my husband. To add, the idea of training a child biblically was foreign thinking. I did not have an example of this practice growing up.
So I resorted to what I am good at and that is researching and finding answers. And here on Dearhomeengr.com, I plan to share with you all of my findings.
Firstly, I quickly learned my first year at home that dependency on God is essential.
Secondly, serving my family has molded me into the confident, focused woman I am today. My life has purpose and meaning beyond myself.
Call to Action
Let’s look at a scripture that will help you see the value of moving forward with being a Home Engineer.
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.Titus 2:3-5
Something to think about don’t you think?
You see understanding your role in the home will help you understand your purpose in your family.
Learning how to teach your young girls to do the same will leave a legacy. Spending hours with your spouse when he is home will be a positive experience instead of a negative one.
And most importantly obedience leads to God’s word not being reviled.
Let’s grow together in learning how to be the best Home Engineer’s, Homeschool moms for our family.
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Sincerely Your home engineer Friend,