Dear Home Engineer: From Career Mom to SAHM
You are probably wondering. Why the term home engineer?
Let me start answering this question by showing you the synonyms of home Engineer according to Thesaurus.com
When you signed up to be a mom, at that very moment you also signed up to be a family manager. The to-do list you write out daily is out of love for your family.
The list, of course, varies in length for each mom depending on how many kids you have and if you are married.
Time and time again no matter how long the list you first-hand know that its a blessing to have a home and family to serve.
But there are times, especially when you feel confused about your role, that you will see your blessings as a burden.
One reason for this feeling is because you have forgotten or have not been taught to see the importance of your role in the home.
Learning the role of a home engineer will grow a mom, wife, and young woman in ways they would have never imagined.
Here’s why. You will understand the bigger picture when it comes to how important your role is in the home.
You see being a Home Engineer is more than just cleaning. It’s about being actively present in all the moving pieces of the home life and enjoying every moment of it.
Reason to be a Stay at home Mom
You are probably wondering why should I even bother with home engineering?
The first reason to consider is a spiritual reason. Since the idea of marriage, homemaking, training up our children, is not a man-made idea. It is, in fact, an idea that originated from the scriptures of old.
Scripture talks about Home engineering?
Yes, yes it does.
And there is much wise counsel to be learned that can help guide you in reviving your love for the home.
And to add if you are not sure where you are spiritually I understand and I want to help.
You see the truths of scripture can set you free and help you be the best mom you can be for your beautiful family.
One of my favorite verses is the following that has helped me time and time again. Especially with all the social media news and pins of perfect families making me feel I don’t measure up.
The following verse has helped me and I hope it helps you too:
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30 English Standard Version (ESV)
I am no scholar of the scriptures. But I have been reading and living the scriptures to the best of my ability for 14 years with the help of Christ. There is much to learn from the verse shared.
I recommend this in-depth article What does it mean when Jesus says, “my yoke is easy and my burden is light” that elaborates more in-depth if you are interested.
Take my yoke upon you meaning
But for now, if you can look with me at the part of the verse that says “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me.”
At the time when this passage was written the systems that were in place were by the Pharisees and their yoke of keeping the hundreds of laws and being in a sense, perfect in keeping them, was a heavy burden to carry.
Likewise in our modern times we have our own systems and laws per se don’t we?
Where we have the media and culture telling us what a successful mom looks like? or how depending on what college your child graduates from shows how successful a parent you really are?
Now let’s consider the yoke of Christ. Where he tells us to rest in him and his promises. Where he tells us to teach our kids to love the ways of God, to love our neighbors that we will have a more fulfilling life.
At times we know this but we still brush it off as nonessential. We tell ourselves there has got to be more to life then what God has to say?
But is that really true? Or are we making it harder then it needs to be.
The scripture is big on training up a child in the way they should go. Learning to obey authority, following the right path. Staying away from people that do harm to others. Working like the ants and preparing your food ahead of time.
Don’t we desire for our kids to be trained well and to be prepared in this life?
I mean we are not going to be around forever. No one is guaranteed tomorrow.
So as family managers the best gift we can give our kids are the skill set, wisdom, and truths to help them live on their own as if we were to be gone tomorrow.
As a home engineer going on 6 years, I can say that who I am today, genuinely enjoying my family and understanding my role and duty to the home, would have never been discovered if I did not make the bold decision of trusting Christ and taking my homemaker role seriously back in 2014.
That’s why I can’t keep this to myself and not share with other women the importance of carefully considering becoming a home engineer.
Support for SAHM
Here are some ways I desire to guide you and help you revive a love for your own home. The letters I will write to you will be in the form of posts on my blog. Here are a few examples of how you can benefit from this blog:
- I will Provide helpful strategies to tackle the first-year learning curve of balancing all the moving pieces of the home life
- Learn about several game-plan tactics to teach your kids how to do life through learning life skills 101
- If you are considering the homeschooling route, I will share some helpful tips and tricks to help you on your homeschool journey from Kinder to college.
- Accountability community, to encourage you to love your home and to live in a way that brings joy to yourself and your family.
As the blog grows I will learn more about the questions that you need answering. And we will address them together at that time.
Who is the writer behind DearHomeEngr.com?
Hello, my name is Veronica Gutierrez. I love researching and implementing ways to make homemaking and homeschooling easier. I’m going on six years of being a homemaker and homeschool mom and it has molded me to the woman I am today.
As for my education, I have an A.S degree in Mathematics and a B. A degree in Business Administration. The year I got married God blessed me with my first child and it led me to prayerfully reconsider my career path.
I am a born again Christian saved by God’s grace. For 9 years I have been a mom with two beautiful girls. Their nicknames are Sweety Sweets who is 8.5 years old and Juju bee who is 8 months old.
Yes, it’s an 8-year gap between my two girls but the Lord has planned it out that way and that is a faith story for a later post.
And last but not least I am married to the husband of my youth, Steven, for now over a decade.
I am a living testimony of God’s faithfulness and grace each and every day. I have been there where I was lost and confused about my role as a mom, wife, and now homeschool mom.
Maybe you desire both being a homemaker and homeschool mom but don’t know where to begin.
Like you want to ask an older woman at your church for help with being a mom or wife but you’re hesitant to ask. You might be attending bible studies to help with your marriage and you feel out of place. The main reason being almost every mom in the room works outside of the home. And it feels as if Homemaking is not a popular topic because it is easily brushed away when you bring it up.
In addition, you don’t want to come off better than other moms just because you feel strongly that it glorifies God to be home. You desire to be obedient to your call that’s all.
And to clarify you should still prayerfully consider reaching out to that older lady and continue attending bible studies in your church. Your influence is important too.
You don’t need to go at it alone. There are a handful of likeminded mamas out there that share the same passions and convictions of taking home engineering seriously.
Its a road less traveled, but its a road worth traveling on.
And I am in agreement with the role of a mom being home and being the main influencer of our children. How else are we supposed to train children in the way they should go if we are in a different location, away from them, most of the day?
Every homemaker’s journey will look different. But the motive is very similar whether we see it right now or not, and that is to love our family well by being obedient in living our role well in the home.
In 2014 the opportunity of a lifetime presented itself in a way that I would have never imagined. At the time I was working 14 hours a day as an Educator performing different duties in the Afterschool sector.
I had two cell phones one for work and one for personal use. They both rang daily and I was always ready to answer and solve the problem at hand.
But I didn’t see that I was in a danger zone with my health.
It wasn’t until a sharp nerve pain in my back slowed me down. This resulted in my husband pleading with me to go to the doctor.
After several hours of testing and waiting, I received the news that I had shingles.
I was only twenty-eight years old.
Immediately I took time off of work that week. Little did I know that time off would result in one of the best decisions I ever made.
After two years of praying and waiting to be a homemaker, the time has finally arrived. I wrote my resignation letter to my boss that week I was off.
Afterward, an unknown journey awaited me.
My first year home confession
My first year home I was in for a big surprise.
You would think I had enough life experience to handle a toddler and maintain a home.
And to my dismay, I learned quickly that I lacked skills in this department.
As a Christian wife, I struggled in biblical submission and genuinely loving my husband. To add, the idea of training a child biblically was foreign thinking. I did not have an example of this practice growing up.
So I resorted to what I am good at and that is researching and finding answers. And here on Dearhomeengr.com, I plan to share with you all of my findings.
Firstly, I quickly learned my first year at home that dependency on God is essential.
Secondly, serving my family has molded me into the biblical woman I’ve always prayed to become.
Call to Action
Let’s look at a scripture that will help you see the value of moving forward with being a Home Engineer.
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.Titus 2:3-5
Something to think about don’t you think?
You see understanding your role biblically in the home will help you understand your purpose in your family. Learning how to teach your young girls to do the same will leave a legacy. Spending hours with your spouse when he is home will be a positive experience instead of a negative one.
And most importantly obedience leads to God’s word not being reviled.
Let’s grow together in learning how to be the best Home Engineer for our family.
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Your home engineer Friend,